I don’t know what it is about Valentine’s Day but it always brings out the wrong type of emotion in my life. Maybe because I spent so many years not having anyone to celebrate this Hallmark holiday with. Now I’m married and I would actually like to celebrate the holiday.
This morning the husband and I had a little tizzy about the upcoming holiday because we were talking about gifts. He told me no gifts because there’s Christmas and birthdays. Well why no gifts? I understand our anniversary is right after Christmas. This year for our anniversary we didn’t do gifts because we did Christmas up so well. But Christmas gifts and Valentine’s Day gifts are two different animals. Christmas gifts are things you want to buy people, Valentine’s Day gifts are just the gifts that show that you care. Kind of ridiculous I know. Why should you have to give a gift to let someone know that you care? Simply put, you don’t. You should show that person you care all year round. Valentine’s Day gifts don’t have to expensive…or don’t have to cost anything at all. It could be a hand written note or a lovely poem or something home made. That’s what Valentine’s Day is about, putting in the effort to show someone that you care.
I guess my issue here was I’ve been really thinking about what I was going to do for my husband for Valentine’s Day and it just seems like he wasn’t thinking about it at all. He’s kind of just brushed it off like another day and has moved on because there is Christmas and birthdays for gifts. And then I got: “Well most people give chocolates or flowers. We can’t have chocolate and you don’t like flowers.” True statement, but you can’t search your imagination for something else? I guess it’s about the trying part with me.
Plus, Valentine’s Day is day of love. A day of celebration for your spouse, parents, kids, siblings, friends…and whoever else is important in your life. We should all take the time to share with them why they are important in our lives and that we love them.
I’m a natural gift giver. I like to give gifts. I like to make things for people. I just like to show I care. And I guess sometimes I would just like it back. I’m not saying that my husband doesn’t appreciate me because I know that he does. Romance is not dead fellows. A woman still wants to be romanced and doted on in life and Valentine’s Day is the day to that for your lady. I’ve probably opened up a whole set of worms with this post, but here are my words…and that is how I feel.
He says no gifts, but I’m going to do something just because that’s the type of person that I am. And I guess maybe it’s unfair that I would expect something from him too because he’s not me. He is his own person. But the whole conversation just left me feeling slightly empty.
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