I don’t understand why when a girl/woman is shy or quiet that equals a problem with self-confidence. (And I also don’t understand why that often translates into snobbery, but that’s a whole other issue.) Maybe she just doesn’t have anything to say. I’m a very loquacious, sometimes boisterous when I’m in good company, but only when I have something to say. You know those people who talk just to hear themselves talk, well that’s not me. Just because someone doesn’t have something to say doesn’t mean they suffer from a self-confidence issue. Just because someone doesn’t always want to be the center of attention doesn’t mean they have a self-confidence issue.
For one, people who just want to hear themselves talk annoy me because the quality of what they are saying is somewhat depleted. They tend to talk way too much about something or many things…and most people just don’t know that much about one subject or several subjects. And people who seek that attention also tend to be annoying because they mostly only focus on themselves and don’t really pay attention to others around them. There is an exception to this, they only pay attention to you when you’re not paying attention to them…and they damn well are going to find a way to make you pay attention to them.
I’m a firm believer in only speaking when you have something interesting to say. Anything else is just uncivilized. There’s a difference between making small talk and talking too much. But those people who don’t speak as often as others tend to have intelligent and interesting things to say. I don’t think that qualifies as a confidence problem.
